Building Confidence~ Be a Rebel during Questionable Times
Posted: Tuesday, October 28, 2008
by Beth Tabak
Starting Now
"In uncertain times go against the norm. Keep your eyes, ears, and mind open to the opportunities and choices surrounding you. Get creative. Take new actions. Be courageous. Adjust. Trust. Know that you can make this a positive experience. Stay in the light." Beth Tabak
Fear and insecurities are paralyzing. To be unlimited go against the norm. Build strength and confidence in you. Control what you have control over… your thoughts, choices, and actions. Here are 10 tips to build confidence, stay in high energy, and stand strong.
~ Strengths- natural abilities you might feel are no big deal… but others think are pretty special
~ Passions- what you would do if time and money were not an issue
~ Skills- what you have learned and developed from past work and experience
~ Knowledge~ gained from information, experience, or others, and lastly
~ Values~ you can not imagine life without it. It is what you stand for (i.e. honesty, humor, adventure, compassion, etc.)
Trust- Know that you can handle anything. Experiences bring value that can improve the world. Hold a positive attitude from a much deeper place. Stay in faith. Get out of your head into a more soulful place where you connect with feelings, intuition, and follow that guiding gut instinct.
Be a Rebel- As the quote above says, go against the norm. Open your eyes, ears, and mind to choices and possibilities instead of following the leader. Listen. Be creative. Think outside the box. Look at your situation from a new perspective as if you are on the outside looking in or a different person.
Stay Present- Fear is the perception of a possible future event. So if you become an expert at keeping your mind here and now, you will not be in fear. The more you stay present the more you notice the opportunities, choices, and people available to you.
Shift How You Feel through Great Body Talk- Stand and sit up straight with confidence, walk with enthusiasm, hold your head up, dress in a way that makes you feel great, shake hands firmly, and smile often. You will feel great and others will, too.
Build a Support Network- Choose connections that are on your side. They get who you are, support who you are becoming, and encourage you. Hang in environments with positive and intelligent energy flowing so that you may have access to high energy, information, resources, etc. Give back, too!
Focus on Your Service to Others- When focused on what you do for others you don't have time to feel sorry for yourself. You get out of fear and paralysis and are drawn to action. Right now write down 10 ways you know you can help others through the work you do. Focus on that.
Set Boundaries- Say 'no' to people who hold you back or treat you bad, over spending, debt, tolerating stuff, excuses, negative self talk, clutter, feeling low, etc. Say 'yes' to healthy relationships, feeling good and healthy, being authentic, getting rid of clutter and repairs, and having reserves of assets.
Be in Action- Take new actions for new results. Choose those that allow you to hold your head high. In action you are likely to talk to more people and build relationships. You gain access to resources, opportunities, and information. You discern what you like and dislike so your passion finds YOU!
Stay Authentic- Be true to you!
Take control of what you have control over… your thoughts, choices, and actions. Work through the tips one by one to stay in confidence, stay in high energy, and stand strong no matter what is tossed your way. We are capable of so much more. The world is awaiting you… StartingNow!
Copyright 2008, Beth A. Tabak, All rights reserved.
Beth Tabak of www.StartingNowCoaching.com is 100% committed to small business coaching and personal life coaching. She is a speaker, writer, and coaches big thinkers to be unlimited, stand out in the crowd, and experience the vastness of their abilities. Stop by to say 'hello' and see all that is available to you.
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Top-level comments on this article: (4 total)Beth, this is GRRrrrrrrreat information! Thank you for sharing it. I am proof-positive that what you have so eloquently articulated works. Your 10 tips are life altering and changing to help us live that life of purpose we were created to live. I found tips where I needed work in those areas.Thanks Avis, It is always such a pleasure to get positive feedback.
Beth, first let me say this is really great information for those who have hope, a chance, have. It was well thought out and written and the title is appropriate for the times. In my opinion it cannot apply to those who have not and perhaps in some limited fashion. The opportunities in my opinion are only for those who still have the wealth to take advantage of it.Thank you for your comment. I really appreciate it but also feel the need to ask you to open to the many choices you have, and to look from a different perspective so you may be able to see more options. You mentioned wealth, for instance. If that was meant 'financially' I've noticed that many think some have it and some don't. Actually money is constantly flowing. Oprah's money is not just sitting in a vault. She has assets that the money used help pay many people's pay checks. Even the money at the bank is being used by the bank. The money is flowing to and from people. So the key is to look at your strengths, passions, values, skills and say 'how can I best use these to help others?' Then orient your work around that so you can get in the game where the money does flow to you. When you get to a place of feeling like you are drowning... you need a hand. Connect with the resources in your community. Talk to LOTS of people... get in a place of trust...and I expect doors will open. Sometimes things happen we don't like but in hindsite valuable lessons are learned that prepare us for better things to come. Just a few thoughts. Hope this helps.
Hi Beth, these are great tips, combining the outward mental changes, with an inward change of heart, makes for a great start to a postive life admidst tough circumstances. Very timely message. Thanks! Teresa
Beth! Very nice article... Its helpful and practical...Keep it up...God bless you...
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